Mar 13, 2018

Homeschool Review Crew: Taming the Lecture Bug

It really doesn't matter how long you have been a parent, you can always use some helpful advice and a fresh perspective. I have been a parent for awhile, but parenting teens is relatively new territory for me, so I was interested in reading through the book Taming the Lecture Bug and Getting Your Kids to Think from Parenting Made Practical.

Being a parent is hard. Falling into the habit of lecturing is easy. When I stop and think about it, I believe that I have four great kids, but it feels like I spend most of my day reminding, nagging, and lecturing. I looked to this book for tips on how to help me parent differently. 

Taming the Lecture Bug and Getting Your Kids to Think Book

Taming the Lecture Bug was written by Joey and Carla Link. With their combined careers of ministry and social work, they offer a unique look at parenting. 

There are 12 chapters in the book, covering the issues of: too much lecturing; how kids need to think, why they don't, and what parents do to keep them from thinking; selfishness; stubbornness; helping your child escape temptation; how to use questions; and responsibility. The main point of the book is that your children can and should take responsibility for chores, grades, obedience and just life in general. The book explains the need for this and how you, the parent, can stop enabling your kids and help them take that responsibility. Not with nagging and lecturing, which doesn't work, but with calm and certain consequences that force the burden of choice onto the child.

Taming the Lecture Bug was a quick and easy read. Joey and Carla trade off explaining their methods and ideas, using stories of raising their own three children to illustrate their principles. Each chapter ends with a personal testimony of various parents who have a success story based on the information in that chapter. 

The thing about kids, especially teens and tweens, is their effortless ability to draw the parent into arguments and negotiations about the topic at hand. Joey and Carla give parents practical tools to keep themselves out of these discussions and keep the issue at the forefront. 

I was also sent a copy of the DVD Taming the Lecture Bug and Getting Your Kids to Think. This DVD is a lecture version of the book. It is Joey and Carla explaining in person the art of asking questions instead of lecturing your kids. Their daughter Amy is also in the video, helping to illustrate and give examples. The DVD is not just a copy of the book, it is more a presentation of the method and gives you a closer glimpse of their personalities and their heart for families. I felt it was a great companion to the book, but it could definitely stand alone if you prefer video to reading. A fun addition was a brief explanation of the four basic temperaments. 

Taming the Lecture Bug and Getting Your Kids to Think DVD

I gleaned a lot of practical ideas and tips from Taming the Lecture Bug and Getting Your Kids to Think . It helps to shift the burden of responsibility to my kids and to simply expect them to fulfill their obligations without excuses. I have always leaned toward asking my kids questions and I appreciate the step-by-step practical tools toward leading my kids to acknowledging their obligation/ wrongdoing/ and then accepting the consequences and repentance.

Also, I did appreciate that they point out that lecturing does, indeed make the parent feel better and that Carla did sometimes tell her kids "I have a lecture in me and you are going to hear it." Because there are indeed times that I just need to speak my mind. 

I would definitely recommend this book to young, new parents and to parents of older children who are tired of nagging and lecturing and just want some ideas on how to change the dynamic of their family. 

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